Do you have trouble handing off work? How about issues trusting tasks to someone else? Do you believe that if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself? If so, it’s time to learn to let go.
I know I have trouble with this from time to time. If I have a vision of how something should be completed, I often find it easier to do it myself than to let go of the reigns completely or to try to explain to someone else how it should be done. But this mentality can have many negative effects on a business or work group. Micromanagement of this sort leads to poor delegation, unbalanced workloads, resentment, and restricted growth and development of your fellow team members.
Instead, let go of that drive to control every aspect of your business or project that you are working on.
It can be incredibly challenging, but learning how to relinquish control will not only improve the health of your organization, but the mental health for you and everyone around you as well.
Control is rooted in fear.
We seek to control things because we fear what will happen in the hands of someone else. We worry that things will turn out badly or not meet our high personal standards. It’s a lack of trust and a difficulty counting on others.
But we can learn to let go. It takes practice, and it may take some time, but it can be done.
Ironically, by relinquishing control we actually achieve more control. Strong leadership means being able to delegate and putting trust in your colleagues. It empowers your other team members and allows them the creativity and freedom to thrive and problem-solve in their own, most effective manner. While excessive control reduces morale and motivation, putting power in the hands of others gives them the initiative and encouragement to succeed.
Begin by making an assessment about your need to control.
Be honest with yourself. In what areas do you find yourself most controlling? Why? What are you afraid of happening? How does your behavior impact those around you? The better you can answer those questions the more ready you will be to start letting go.
Put your trust in others.
Remember why you chose your team and the skills and talents each member brings to the table. If you saw their potential when you hired or partnered with them, then you should trust your intuition, and their abilities, that they’ll get the job done. Don’t force someone to follow your method just because it works well for you. Let the individuals on your team handle their areas of expertise in a manner most comfortable to them and let them shine. By constantly standing in the way and micromanaging, you only end up stifling their growth as well as the growth of your business.
Surrender and just let go.
This doesn’t mean not caring or no longer paying attention to what your team members are doing, it just means having the faith in your team and the operational structure that all will be taken care of without your direct involvement. It means loosening up and allowing yourself to be supported instead of always driving the process. If that sounds scary to you, instead of focusing on what may go wrong, consider the freedom you will feel by no longer having to be involved. There’s something truly and deeply liberating about letting things go.
Will this be easy? That is up to you.
It can be extremely uncomfortable and difficult for some people at first, but the more you practice your ability to let go of control, the easier it becomes. Keep at it, and soon you will not only remove a good deal of stress, anxiety, and worry from your life, but you’ll have an inspired team and positive growing business as well. Open yourself up to the possibilities and just let go.